Q + A: 10 Questions About Life After Baby

Answering your top 10 questions about what life looks like after having my second baby. From when I started to work out again, to my current postpartum fitness routine, to the best post-baby ab exercises, and whether or not a third baby is on the horizon…

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Today I’m sharing something a little different from our typical healthy recipe and at-home workout!

You guys have been asking for more real-life, lifestyle content. So we’re introducing a New Q+A Series where we take 10 frequently asked questions about a specific topic — think meal prep, weekly workout plans, mom hacks — and answer them here on the blog.

This will be a monthly series, so each month we’ll select a topic and answer 10 questions on that topic. And each month we will poll Instagram and Facebook to gather our top 10 FAQ’s.

This month, January, is our very first monthly Q + A series and the topic is: 10 Questions About Life After Baby. 

If you’re a visual person and like video, check out the rapid-fire style, question and answer video we put together at the top of this post (also on YouTube here).

On the contrary, if you’d rather comb through the questions and answers in greater detail; you can grab a hot cup of coffee and read all the details below.

Q + A: Life After Baby

10 questions about life after baby

1. When did you start working out after your second child, Bella, was born?

I started working out again around 4 weeks postpartum. I started with power walking and 15-30 minute, low impact strength training workouts 2-3 days a week. Some of my first workouts included:

*Note, this is my personal journey. Every pregnancy, labor, delivery and postpartum journey looks and feels different. I do advise that you check with your physician or midwife before returning to exercise post-baby. 

2. Has this postpartum recovery been different from your first baby?

Yes!

Physically harder. I came out of this pregnancy with a 3+ finger width diastasis recti (or ab separation). My pelvic floor was a lot weaker. And my hemorrhoids continue to be an issue. As a result, I saw a pelvic floor therapist — Jennifer Joslyn at Motion MN in Minnetonka. You can read more about what to expect in a pelvic floor physical therapy appointment + the exercises Dr. Jen and I worked through in this post: about Diastasis Recti. After months of core and pelvic floor recovery I’ve now decreased my diastasis recti to less than 1.5 finger width separation. My pelvic floor is feeling stronger as I continue to increase glute and hip strength. And my hemorrhoids are still an issue, but are slowly getting better.

Mentally easier. Transitioning into life with my first child, Brody, was a lot harder for me. I had postpartum depression, anxiety and rage. While it hasn’t been all butterflies and rainbows since Bella was born, my mental health is in a much better state this time. Having a second child has helped ‘chill’ me out a bit more.

And in the video at the top of this post I said, about the same in regards to finding time for my marriage and husband…but I think I’d actually say it’s been harder with two. There’s a lot more ‘divide and conquer’ happening these days.

Getting back into fitness postpartum

3. How do you workout with 2 kids?

Currently (writing this around 4 months postpartum), early morning workouts before the kids are up. Anywhere from 4:30am-6am. Or nap time workouts if I’m home with the kids. Both of which take place at home in my downstairs basement home gym.

And sometimes I have to be a bit more flexible, allowing for the kids to join me if they wake up early.

4. How many day a week are you working out?

Currently (again I’m writing this around 4 months postpartum), I’m striving for 4-5 days a week. 

That said, in my earlier postpartum days it was 2-3 days a week.

Eventually, I hope to get back into a more solid routine of 5-6 days a week. But I’m allowing myself a bit more grace and flexibility this time around.

To be honest, working out postpartum is a big part of maintaining my mental health. So I try to make it a priority. But allow for flexibility because there are so many variables in the first year postpartum, like lack of sleep.

And on the days I don’t workout, I try to be more active with older son Brody.

5. What are the best post-baby ab exercises or core exercises?

I personally love this 10 Minute Beginner Ab Workout, and I’ve been doing it 2-3 times a week since around 4 weeks post-baby.

I love using a spongeball (under $10 on Amazon) for re-building core and pelvic floor strength post-baby.

These 7 Exercises for Postpartum Recovery and Diastasis Recti are also great.

Beginner Ab Workout | Postpartum Core Recovery

6. Has this maternity leave been easier, the same, or harder than your first maternity leave?

I’ll reference question #2 above, but overall I’d say easier as I feel less crazy and anxious.

My first child, Brody, was born at 36 weeks so I didn’t feel as prepared as I’d hoped to be when he was born. Whereas, this time I worked ahead on a lot of content for work, had meals in the freezer to pull from; so I felt more prepared this time around.

That said, I did have a lot of ‘mom guilt’ for not being able to play and be with Brody when Bella was first born. There were a lot of days I cried over feeling like a ‘bad mom’ to my firstborn because Bella required so much of my time and attention.

7. What would you do differently in your next maternity leave?

If you follow me on social media, you know that I took a 1 month hiatus over the holiday’s (basically the month of December). If I ever have another maternity leave I’d take a longer social media break.

Becoming a new mom brings out a lot of insecurities and I found myself comparing my babies sleep schedule, or my milk supply with other new moms and there’s just no reason to go there. And taking time offline, helped me be more present at home where I needed to be.

8. What tips do you have for going from one to two kids?

I’m still trying to figure this whole mom of two thing out :). 

I’d say that having two kids has definitely ‘chilled me out’ a bit. And I’m showing myself a lot more grace this time around.

I’m trying to be totally present where my feet are, making 4-8pm ‘family time’.

And when I feel overwhelmed with two kids needing my attention at the same time I remember, ‘if they’re crying they are breathing’.

postpartum life

9. What’s your favorite part of being a mom?

Two moments come to mind.

  1. When Brody tells me he loves me completely unprompted.
  2. And when Bella unlatches from nursing, looks up and gives me the biggest smile.

I had no idea I could love two tiny humans this much!

10. Is a third baby on the horizon?

Ha, you’ll have to ask me that again in two years…I honestly can’t answer that right now.

life after baby FAQ

And that wraps up our first monthly Q + A post!

Next month’s topic is all things MEAL PREP! If you have any questions you want answered, comment below!

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4 comments
  1. Hello Lindsey! I love your blog and workouts very much :). I’ve recently started meal prepping and sometimes I find a bit overwhelmed to have to prep the entire week (lunch and dinner). I am still not consistent in prepping for the entire week. We are a family of three with both working from 8 to 5. Do you have any suggestions to make it easier because I see that it helps and saves me a lot of time in the kitchen during the week. Love, Renata

    • Hi Renata! I’m so glad you’re loving the content on my site! You’re not alone in the balancing act of working full-time + meal prep! I’ll be sure to add this to my list of questions for the Feb Q+A video on meal prep! Thank you!

      Lindsey

  2. Great content. Since we are adding a second kiddo in a few months i am very interested in other’s processes of growing their family!!

    • Hi Tara! Glad you found this post interesting. Congrats on your growing family; exciting times! Wishing you all the best with the transition to a family of 4! -Lindsey